So where do you start and when is the right time? Something you should note prior to “the talk” is knowing it takes the whole family. Every member of your family should be involved in this conversation as it’s a very tough topic. Once everyone is gathered together, here’s how you should start the conversation.
Having the Conversation With Your Parents
So again, this is the toughest part of the entire process, but we’re here to help. Here are some of our suggestions on how to lead the conversation.
Try to frame the conversation not as a loss, but as a change. Although things are changing, they are positive. Also, it’s best to state your concerns and reasoning for choosing alternative methods for them. If your parents insist that they’re fine, offer to take them for a safety evaluation from their doctor.
Reframe the “It’s Time To Stop Driving” Conversation
It’s human nature to be distraught when we’re told we can no longer do something– whatever that might be. Bluntly telling your elderly parents they need to stop driving is almost guaranteeing an argument, so we recommend taking the leap slowly. It’s true because when they hear the words “stop driving,” it sounds like a command that can be insinuated as “stop leaving the house and having a life.” Something to note is that many elders do experience a somewhat depressive state once they stop driving because they don’t have alternative transportation in place. That’s why the best way to approach this conversation is “here’s how you can keep safely getting out and enjoying your life.”
Try to Find Transportation Alternatives
On that note, one way to keep their independence is with a mobility scooter, as it can help them get around anywhere and everywhere. You can help them get familiar with driving a mobility scooter or even offer to look through the local bus, subway or train system. When it’s time you present these options to your folks, try to start shifting their mindset and ideas of using other mobility services. Remind them that there are people who enjoy their life, without driving a car.
Considerate Your Parents’ Feelings
Ultimately, being safe is in you and your parents’ best interest. With a realistic approach, about the risks to their safety and to others, they’ll (hopefully) be more inclined to listening to you and adjusting their habits of life, including driving. Some families take drastic measures, like hiding their parent’s car keys or disabling their cars– that is not the goal here. We want you to feel comfortable talking with your parents while also making them feel some sort of ease at these actions.
Stay patient during this process as it will take time to sink in, for both you and your folks. Fortunately, this guide will help you when its time for the conversation.
An “intervention” isn’t necessary for this topic, as it should be comforting and considerate. You just need to remember to share the right information about transportation alternatives with your parents, such as mobility scooters and car services, and a unified and holistic approach to addressing the problem. Keep us in mind when your parents are ready for the change, we are the people who will make them feel comfortable driving a mobility scooter to give you peace of mind.
